The sex ed I received in the 1990s was about the dangers of sex. Unwanted pregnancy, disease, and violence. I was scared of sex before I had a chance to have any first hand experience. These attitudes had negative impact on many intimate relationships and in my relationship to my own body and sexuality. I have spent my adult life unlearning this attitude about sex. Yes, all of those risks important to talk about. But sex is not defined by them. My entire life - romantic, sexual, interpersonal and intrapersonal development - would have been improved if I had received formal education about how to trust my own body, how to navigate consent when I myself felt conflicted about an encounter, and how to explore fluidity in my own sexual orientation. These feelings had been repressed for 25 years, and caused a lot of shame and confusion for me. I pray that students now can grow up with a sex-positive, medically accurate, and psychologically sound, and trauma-informed sex ed.
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